What is Anger?
I have no doubt that we’ve all experienced many different flavors of anger; the fact that we have SO many different words for anger demonstrates that anger is obviously of great importance to us humans living on Earth! (This is similar to how Eskimos have dozens of different words for snow, which is obviously extremely important in their day to day life.) In English, we have literally dozens of words for different types of anger, including:
acrimony, animosity, annoyance, antagonism, blow up, cat fit, chagrin, choler, conniption, dander, disapprobation, displeasure, distemper, enmity, exasperation, fury, gall, hatred, hissy fit, huff, ill humor, ill temper, impatience, indignation, infuriation, irascibility, ire, irritability, irritation, mad, miff, outrage, passion, peevishness, petulance, pique, rage, rankling, resentment, slow burn, soreness, stew, storm, tantrum, temper, tiff, umbrage, vexation, and violence.
(If you can think of others, send them my way!)
However, if you look under the surface, you’ll find that anger isn’t actually real; instead, anger is a cover or façade worn by a seemingly totally different emotion: fear!
Yes, that’s right – anger is just one way that fear projects itself into our day to day lives.
If you dig deep into the fundamental nature of human emotions, you’ll find that we really only have two core emotions: love and fear. All of the so-called “positive” emotions (ex. joy, grace, happiness, excitement, ecstasy, etc.) are simply different flavors or versions or twists of love. Likewise, all of the so-called “negative” emotions (ex. anger, fear, jealousy, resentment, etc.) are simply different flavors or versions or twists of fear.
If I were to describe these two core emotions, I would define them as follows:
- “Love” is the energy of unity, expansion, connection, abundance, and growth.
- “Fear” is the energy of separation, contraction, disconnection, scarcity, and decay.
Let’s look at a common example of anger to dig down to find the fear underneath. Nearly all of us living in the modern Western world have experienced some form of “road rage” where we get angry at other drivers. For example, let’s say that you are driving on the road, and a maniac driver turns right in front of you so he can get to where he’s going 3 seconds sooner, forcing you to take immediate emergency action to avoid an accident. If this happens to you, it’s a completely natural and normal reaction to be angry, but the anger you feel isn’t the real core emotion. Instead, what’s underneath is fear, or perhaps a complex of fears, including but not limited to:
- Fear of not getting to where you are going on time
- Fear of being injured or killed (you and/or your passengers)
- Fear of damage to your car (and/or your cargo)
- Fear of being disrespected (this one is a lot bigger than you might think!)
You’ll find that if you can dig to the core of these fears and clear them, then the anger vanishes!
Also notice that most of these fears listed above correlate to some sort of scarcity or poverty consciousness; for example, if you truly believed in an abundance of time, you wouldn’t be afraid of being delayed or being late. And if you truly believed in an abundance of money, you wouldn’t be afraid of damage to your car.
While this article is focused specifically on anger, this principle is generally true for all of the so-called negative emotions. As an example, let’s take jealousy; more specifically, let’s say that you are jealous of a co-worker that starts dating a person that you are attracted to. Underneath the jealousy is some combination of fears, including the fear that you will never find love, and/or the fear that you will always be alone, and/or the fear that you will never be good enough to attract an attractive and desirable mate. As with the road rage example, many of these fears are based in scarcity or poverty consciousness. Hence, if you clear the underlying fears, the jealousy will disappear, and instead you will find yourself in gratitude and appreciation that two fellow humans have found happiness together with the knowingness that you’ll find your partner when the divine timing is right. (And if you really understand the Law of Attraction, you know that this way of living and thinking will greatly increase your chances of finding love in your own life!)
The process of digging and clearing fears is beyond the scope of this article, but there is an extensive discussion of digging on and clearing fears in the VIP Club Special Event Transcending Fear, as well as in the Awakening Dynamics:Level 1 and Awakening Dynamics:Level 3 training classes.
I am confident that if you look underneath your anger, you’ll find fear, every time, no matter what!